THE POWER OF OPPOSITION
Recently a student at Duquesne University was sanctioned for creating and posting anti-gay propaganda on the web site called "The Facebook", which connects college students throughout the country. For an article describing his posts and the resulting fallout see
http://www.digitalduke.duq.edu/article.asp?id=128
My intention here is not to debate the content of his posting, which seems to me obviously misguided and ignorant, nor to discuss what seem to me to be clear violations of the first amendment committed by the school in sanctioning him for his post. (See the article for details)
Instead, I want to point out that it is not in the best interests of the gay rights advocates to make such a big deal when these sorts of things happen. I also want to make clear here that the comments made on the web site were not threatening n nature. That is, he did not say gays should die, or anything of that nature. Comments that directly threaten need to be treated as such.
However, comments such as those made on The Facebook should be treated in a very different way, one that minimizes their impact instead of maximizing it. Let me explain what I mean.
People who read comments such as that can be divided into two basic groups. First are people who read them and are outraged. There is no need to explain to such people that anti-gay comments are inappropriate and hurtful; they already know. Second, there are people who read such comments and agree. There is ALSO no need to explain the facts about anti-gay comments to people such as this, but for a very different reason. That they can ignore the obvious bigotry and inappropriateness of such comments proves that they are either incapable of understanding or unwilling to understand, so explanation does no good.
Given this, all such strong responses to this bogitry do is legitimize it as part of our national discourse. I have a message for all the Gay Rights Advocates out there: YOU HAVE ALREADY WON! Although I understand that the Gay Marriage Ban would not suggest this, this post does not concern official policies. In that arena, I agree there is a ways to go. We are talking here about personal bigotry which, while it exists, is no longer acceptable in the public arena. This is a very important distinction to be able to make, because, while we can exorcise official bigotry from our society, the first amendment makes it impossible to eliminate private racism through legislative or punitive means. Where I say that Gay Rights has already won is in making it socially unacceptable to bring private bigotry into the public forum. This has happened through no political means, but through the resocialization of an entire generation.
When such bigotry rears its ugly head, it is somewhat akin to a dog pissing in the middle of the kitchen floor. It is inconvenient, and sometimes a little embarassing if you have friends over, but you must recognize that the dog can't help being a dog. What you don't do is walk through the neighborhood with a loudspeaker and demand that your neighbors acknowledge that your dog has no right to pee on your floor. And you always remember that is that dog bites someone, you will have to put it down.
My point is this. There is no reason to get up in arms about bigotous idiots, because they do not know or care that you are up in arms. Instead, exclusion is the order of the day. All of us who recognize that bigots are less than human should simply refuse to publicize and legitimize individual bigotry, while working to eliminate all traces of that bigotry from the public political arena. If we do that, we will be much farther on the way to creating a bigot-free place to live.
OGW